The Shadows of Risk

What is your relationship to risk? When we engage in risk the potential consequences are greater than the potential rewards, although the rewards may be incredible.

Some people are fine with the bodily kind, and take flight in extreme sports or take on dangerous altitudes and weather conditions. Others wouldn’t climb a ladder but sit at the head of the proverbial or literal high rollers table with finances.

Driving after a couple of martinis or while participating in a text argument, having an affair, telling a lie, slander, shoplifting or worse—risk is always an element of shadow behavior. There is a […]

Be Here Now

This weekend, I was overjoyed to both have a 50-degrees-in-February morning free and some new recorded content from a teleclass to listen to as I set out for a 6-mile walk. 2 miles through the city, 2 miles around Fresh Pond, and 2 miles back.
The first two miles out I was mildly preoccupied with whether I had left enough time to get back and prepare for a phone call. I had, but my mind continued to come in and question. I could feel a sheen of anxiety coating the physical experience of walking and the mental receiving of my […]

Friday Practice: Organization

Where will you spend most of your time this weekend? Take time to organize your space before you settle in for your day’s work or play. This could be as simple as shredding some mail and dusting your keyboard all the way to a full-scale deep houseclean.

If the idea of this fills you with dread (takes one to know one ;), be very mindful of the stories your mind is making up, and reward and praise yourself at every step. If your space is already organized, notice where you can add beauty in the form of color, texture, sound or […]

My Journey to Belonging

Belonging is a universal human need. Once basic physiology and safety needs are met, belonging is paramount to human beings.

Some of us spend our whole lives looking for belonging outside of ourselves: in family, school, work, friends, and various social groups. This struggle can be the source of incredible pain and shame.

When I was 8, I was considered and called a “reject.” When we moved to North Carolina in December of 1980, after my father retired from the military, I had entered an unfortunate phase of thick glasses, snaggle teeth, chubby body, and plodding affect from the […]

Monday Mantra: I am Humility

Monday Mantra: You Are Humility

True humility is a complex and potent virtue. In some traditions, humility is seen as recognizing and bowing to the God-self, the Higher self, the enlightened self within.

From an egoic and simplistic place, humility can feel subservient, obsequious, self-serving.

C.S. Lewis made this distinction: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”

Leza Danly says that humility is the “willingness to be changed.” To allow for the possibility that things will not be as they have always been.

In humility, there lives a freshness, an openness, a trust in the unseen and a knowing […]

Monday Mantra: You Are Epiphany

Monday Mantra: You Are Epiphany

Today, allow an “aha!” moment to find you. If there is something in your life that is feeling murky or complicated or confounding, offer it up to the universe with love and blessings and set down struggling to figure it out.

Trust that you will have a glorious insight or quiet answer by day’s end when you open to intuition and curiousity.

Mantra: I Am Epiphany


Safety is a Choice

Paradox alert! Safety is an illusion, an absolute truth, out of our hands, and a choice.

Safety is illusion because our human bodies, our human condition, our current flesh suits are as fleeting as high fashion. We will all die, some of us painfully. We will all suffer at various points through our lives, sometimes from circumstances outside our control but mostly from the machinations of our own minds.

Safety is absolute truth because once you make peace with this fact, a sort of calm resignation envelops you. I will die, and it might be painful. Suffering is inevitable. Oh. Well, […]

Monday Mantra: I am Yes

Monday Mantra: I Am Yes


Today, be the Unconditional Yes to life described by David Richo in his fabulous books.


Not a big loud, hootin’ and hollering’ YEEESSSSS! A serene, open, friendly, curious, gentle Yes to everything that arises.


Let all resistance to what is drain from your body. Say “yes” without understanding or hopes of what might happen.


You will be astonished when you do this at how practiced you are at saying “no” in multiple subtle and overt ways, and what a shift it is to open to Unconditional Yes.


Mantra: I Am Yes

Monday Mantra: I Am a Job Well Done

Monday Mantra: I Am a Job Well Done

Think of a time when you created and completed something great. When you poured your energy, your time, your focused attention, your love, your hope into something.

Maybe it was a huge collaborative effort with a giant reward. Maybe it was an internal triumph of character that you saw through to its resolution.

After it was completed, you smoked the proverbial (or literal!) cigars and drank the scotch of celebration and satisfaction. You reveled in the joy of hard work coming to resolution.

Or did you? Sometimes, sadly, we skip that crucial moment in time […]