Spirituality

I Am Open

About ten years ago I spent my first 24 hours in silence at a retreat. At first, I struggled, lonely and bored, my mind racing.

As the day wore on, my senses kept opening up. We were directed to find a spot in nature and sit there, as still as we could be. Suddenly, it was as if all of nature conspired to show me that it was a miracle. A tiny sweat bee came and sat next to me, perched on my flip flop that sat on the dock next to me, for the whole several hours I remained […]

The Paradox of Hope

According to Merriam Webster, the verb “hope” means: to cherish a desire with anticipation. The noun is: the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen; a feeling that something good will happen or be true.

Two teachers of mine, both of whom I respect deeply, make different distinctions about hope.  Lucid Living (a powerful collaboration between Leza Danly and Jeanine Mancusi), describes hope as a beautiful, expansive, feminine energy, “a genuine expectation of a positive future.” I love this defining of hope as an uplifting conduit of possibility, vulnerable in its wanting and confident in […]

Letting Yourself Off the Hook

One of the universal aspects of the human psyche is the internal voice known as the Inner Critic, the Saboteur, or the Gremlin.
This voice feels at times like it is speaking the Whole Truth about us, but actually it is one very narrow, critical perspective that is usually born out of our childhood experiences (thanks, Mom and Dad), even the happy ones.

The Inner Critic’s role is to keep us safe, and it takes this role seriously. 

It operates from a place of fear, is overly careful, and is often downright cruel.  It says things like:

“You sound so stupid/You’re an […]