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8 01, 2018

Monday Mantra: I Am a Job Well Done

Monday Mantra: I Am a Job Well Done

Think of a time when you created and completed something great. When you poured your energy, your time, your focused attention, your love, your hope into something.

Maybe it was a huge collaborative effort with a giant reward. Maybe it was an internal triumph of character that you saw through to its resolution.

After it was completed, you smoked the proverbial (or literal!) cigars and drank the scotch of celebration and satisfaction. You reveled in the joy of hard work coming to resolution.

Or did you? Sometimes, sadly, we skip that crucial moment in time […]

31 12, 2017

It’s New Years Eve

Today is a day to reflect, remember, and celebrate. Moment by moment, lesson by lesson, sift through and call forth the learnings and yearnings, the failures and triumphs, the darkness and sweetness and richness of the past calendar year.

Honor the new you, forever changed and imprinted by this cycle of four seasons. What do you most want to remember? How will you celebrate, contemplate, and seal in this remembering?

29 12, 2017

Friday Practice: Compassion

Friday Practice: Compassion

The antidote to judgement is compassion, and compassion starts with self. If you are reading this, I have no doubt that you extend compassion to the majority of the people with whom you interact. How loving, kind, and accepting are you to you? How often do you let your heart open and break a little when you confront your own humanity?

Take some time to close your eyes, and breathe deeply. Imagine compassion as a beautiful healing light radiating from your chest. This light relaxes and releases any judgement, self-criticism, or tension from your body. Imagine yourself engulfed […]

26 12, 2017

Monday Mantra: You are Anticipation

Monday Mantra: You Are Anticipation

For those of us who were taught as little ones that Santa Claus would sneak into our house and leave toys while we slept on Christmas eve, it was historically a riotous, unbearably delicious and sugar-fueled experience of unfettered desire and anticipation.

It was so enlivening! So joyful.

As I have gotten older I view longing and anticipation as more of a drag, or proof of my spiritual immaturity and inability to be in the moment. There is still a part of me that thinks that resolution is better than anticipation; that any state is better than […]

18 12, 2017

Monday Mantra: I am Allowing

Allowing is non-resistance. Non-doing. It may even be more gentle and less active than receiving.

Today is about allowing. When you feel your mind and body gearing up, steeling itself, thinking too much or saying, “no,” allow what Is to penetrate instead.

In particular, allow all emotions to emerge, crest and move through you today.

Mantra: I Am Allowing

17 12, 2017

The Paradox of Hope

According to Merriam Webster, the verb “hope” means: to cherish a desire with anticipation. The noun is: the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen; a feeling that something good will happen or be true.

Two teachers of mine, both of whom I respect deeply, make different distinctions about hope.  Lucid Living (a powerful collaboration between Leza Danly and Jeanine Mancusi), describes hope as a beautiful, expansive, feminine energy, “a genuine expectation of a positive future.” I love this defining of hope as an uplifting conduit of possibility, vulnerable in its wanting and confident in […]

10 12, 2017

Knowing Your Range, Growing Your Range

One of the thing I love most about the work I do (coaching, training, therapy) is that it requires tremendous range. Each client, each session, each course, each moment requires something different from me, and I must be fully open, awake, present, and flexible. There is no one-size-fits-all possible in the work of digging deep with human beings, of being in the space of the now with other.

It is the best use of someone like me, good at a little bit of this and a little bit of that, a dabbler, a dilettante. One very generous descriptor I read […]

4 12, 2017

Begin with Failure

Several times a year, I teach a course called Fundamentals, the first of five 3-day, in-person, experiential workshops that train participants in the method and model known as Co-Active Coaching.

Coaching is a particular way of communicating that involves deep listening, asking questions, lots of curiosity, and other skills that most people believe should come naturally and easily. However, for the majority of people coming through the door, they don’t. They are high-level, complex skills that must be learned and practiced and practiced some more.

By the middle of day 2, there is inevitably some frustration, some self-judgement, some despair from […]

9 01, 2017

Uprooting Creativity

Creativity has always been a loaded word for me. Being creative was something that I aspired to, but it somehow felt like it was only the purview of the naturally talented.

I made bad grades in art. I was too uncoordinated and rotund for dance. I was lauded as a good writer and even won some awards for short-story writing as a kid. I loved retreating to my room and letting the pen fly and the words flow. I read and wrote poetry daily in middle and high school.

When I went to college, I took my first poetry-writing course and […]